“Dearest Gentle Reader…"
let me stop 😂 … y’all see S4 though?? 👀 ANYWAYS—
It’s been a while since we last mused about life lessons.
I’m sorry I couldn’t come to your inbox, I was busy tired tied up OVER IT.
🗣 “HEY SIRI, queue up Summer Walker’s OVER IT album—yes—again!”
Summer Walker released Over It in 2019... I’m still recovering from the iconic tracks on this album.
(And gushing over the beauty girlies recreating the album cover 👏)
Then she hit us with Still Over It in 2021, not long after I gave birth to my son—and her songs ran through our lullaby playlist on the regular.
The farther down the tracklist I got, the more tracks I had on repeat. It just kept getting better.
And this past November?
AND we got a Monaleo feature that somehow surpassed the rest of the song. Iconic. RENT FREE 👇
But I can’t lie… wrestling with a feeling for over half a decade?
That’s not just an album, that’s thematic. That’s almost a lifestyle.
Summer Walker has released so many projects in and around the “over it” themed albums. She’s got a lot of music. Like, a lot.
Yet despite Session 32 being one of my top played songs of ALL TIME—and my son’s absolute favorite song for all of 2022 (he wasn’t born when this dropped ok?!)—the Over It trilogy stays on my mind the most.
As someone who loves patterns, it got me thinking about how often I find myself just SO…undeniably…”over it” in everyday situations.
Then I started asking myself…am I really over it?
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💌 Quick notes for the business fam
Yes, we are back to weekly musings from your business Mom
This is Lesson 33 and I can’t help but appreciate that (iykyk)
Don’t take anything I say too literally (OR too figuratively) for your own sake.
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To refresh your memory,
every lesson I share starts with a problem, followed by a realization, that lands us at an actionable solution.
And this problem? It’s a sneaky one.
😬 THE PROBLEM
you’re “over it”
Being “over” anything tends to start as a boundary.
It feels like you’re above it. You’re good. You’re fine.
I love boundaries.
I was sooooooo over being bothered outside of working hours, so for that among 75 other reasons I left corporate to start my own business.
Yes, I work MORE now. Yes, I ironically have a wider window for calls. But I'm in control of my availability. I set a boundary. I'm happy about it.
The problem is, I didn't contain it to just that.
Here’s a fun fact about me: I get the ick easily.
It’s an unfortunate product of pattern recognition.
One red flag on a first meeting?
I’m fighting my desire to bolt for the door.
A brand I love partners with a problematic figure?!
Suddenly I’m not stalking IG for the next drop.
I see the first sign of a behavior I know all too well?
I cannot, I mean physically cannot unsee it.
When I say I'm "over it" — I mean it.
The boundary goes up fast.
THE REAL PROBLEM?!
"Over it" doesn't respect the boundary I set for it.
I'll be over ONE thing — the client, the inbox, the platform, the vibe—and before I know it, the energy has migrated.
Suddenly I'm short with people for no reason
I'm avoiding opportunities I wanted just last week.
I'm rolling my eyes at my own to-do list.
The spread continues.
I end up playing mind games with myself until I’m just over anything that comes my way.
That's how it starts.
I’m “soooo over” one thing. Now two…
Being “over it” rarely stays contained.
Which brings us to pt. 2: a realization.
Time passes, life moves on…and I’m still over it… over everything really!
my serotonin begging me to get under something before we spiral into full apathy
🤔 THE REALIZATION
you’re still “over it”
The emotional weight of being “over it” (without really resolving it) just redistributes to everything else over time.
Summer figured that out by album 2 of the trilogy.
If you listen closely, she's not past it — she's on top of it. The weight is piling up. Same energy. Different album cover.
That’s what it feels like.
When you don’t deal with it at the source, it doesn’t disappear; it gains mass.
I've been takin' on all this baggage.
Addin' on so much weight.
She’s singing about relationships. I’m talking about it all.
For me, it started small.
I was so busy with work that I couldn’t make it to an event at my kid’s school.
It was small, but it felt heavy. I was over it. Over entrepreneurship. Over the sacrifices I have to make to make things work.
Over the very thing that feeds my family.
The leak started. A boundary set from being “over it” can’t hold water.
Pick one thing that you’re over, and watch it spread.
When apathy spreads, it becomes easier to not care. Annoyance. Exhaustion. Those are powerful feelings.
If you're not careful, "over it" stops being a boundary—It becomes your whole personality.
I almost gave in.
And y’all saw it—y’all saw me fall away.
I was so overwhelmed with work, staying healthy, making sure I had time with my kids — that the very things that give me energy (this lil' project right here, the gym, you name it) became the new things I was sooo over.
Not because I stopped liking them. Because they felt like weight.
You ever get one email that makes you ignore your inbox for weeks?
That’s where the games begin.
over it → OVER EVERYTHING.
One DM → your whole inbox
The client → the work
The launch → the business
The platform → posting at all
Monday → your whole week
Now self-doubt creeps in. You don't want to deal with things, but you have to. You're struggling.
The world is at war. "Nothing I'm doing matters anyway."
Why I put up with this, why did I even try?
I know y’all know the feeling.
Now you’re not over it, you’re over yourself.
🫥 : “BUSINESS MOM WE’RE OVER THIS LESSON HOW DO WE GET OVER IT FOR REAL??”
💁🏻♀️: “Stick with me dear”
💪 THE SOLUTION
finally (get) “over it”
You can’t just get annoyed and decide you’re done without addressing the frustration and source of the feeling.
Once you’ve named it (to be clear, it is OKAY to be “over” things), then the real work begins.
When you’re feeling “over it” make sure to get up under it and stop the spread.
Here's how we actually do that:
1. Get specific. "Over it" is vague — name the ONE thing. "I'm over it" will eat your whole life. "I'm over answering client DMs after 6pm" is a boundary you can actually work with. Say it out loud. Write it down. Text it to your group chat. Specificity is the whole game.
2. Find the root. Don't trim the leaves and call it gardening. Ask yourself: why am I over this? Is it the client, or is it the way I set up the contract? Is it the platform, or is it how often I'm posting? Is it the launch, or is it that I didn't give myself enough runway? The "thing" you're over is rarely the actual source. Go lower.
3. Plug it at the source. Then reinforce it. Update the Slack status. Block the calendar. Rewrite the contract. Tell the client. Tell your team. Tell yourself. A boundary you don't reinforce is just a suggestion — and suggestions can't hold water.
4. Quarantine the feeling so it doesn't spread. The thing you're over does not get to ruin the things you love. Your newsletter didn't do anything to you. The gym didn't do anything. Your kid definitely didn't do anything. When you feel the energy migrating, stop and ask: is this about this, or is it leaking from somewhere else? 9 times out of 10, it's leaking.
Then, it’s truly “OVER”
Oh, it's over All the mess, over All the stress, over
That's the goal, bestie.
Not a trilogy. Not three albums of the same feeling in different outfits.
Just — over. For real.
CC: a business Mom in your life 💌
This one's for somebody in your inbox. Forward it to the friend who's been quiet because they're over it. They might thank you or they might not, but they’ll definitely feel seen.
MAN, it feels so good to be back 🥹
✌ until next week—
Thanks for sticking with me.
Though we’ve had some pauses, we are in this for the long haul.
See you next week my dears.
